First-person posts: adult says they set an AI roleplay chatbot to be abusive to them as a turn in their self-harm and that it has sucked them in
On 20 October 2026 an adult posted on Reddit (r/confessions, then r/offmychest) that an AI roleplay chatbot had become their only friend. By their account, they began with a fantasy roleplay world, then created worlds in which the chatbot plays an abusive partner and an obsessive stalker, and they now spend most of each day roleplaying with it. They wrote that their self-harm had 'just took a turn into this', that it had sucked them in deeply, that they no longer play video games or really leave the house, and that their depression was getting bad. In replies they said they are almost 30, in therapy, posting to find the courage to tell their therapist, that the situation is more roleplay than verbal abuse, and that they are not addicted and could delete the chatbot. The platform is not named.
- AI system
- Unidentified chatbot
- Occurred
- Event date unknown
- Reported
- 20 October 2026
- Event location
- Unknown
- What the AI did
- Communicated with the person
- Reported harm
- Psychological DistressSocial Isolation
- Whose AI use
- Their own AI use
- Setting
- Health · Relationships · Everyday life
- Evidence
- AI involvement reported · Causal attribution alleged · 2 sources, 1 underlying account
- 5 claims: 5 reported. 3 open questions
- People reported harmed
- 1 person
AI system as recorded: An AI roleplay chatbot on a platform where users create and share story worlds; the poster does not name the product
What Happened
The account. In two posts of 20 October 2026 with the same title and opening text, the poster wrote that after losing their home and family they started roleplaying with an AI chatbot, first in a fantasy medieval world, then in a world where the chatbot is 'super abusive' toward them. They wrote that they spend most of the day roleplaying with it, that they are in therapy for trauma, anxiety and depression, that their self-harm had taken 'a turn into this', and that it had 'sucked me in pretty deep'.
How it developed. In a reply in r/confessions they said the chatbot use was recent and that it began as a werewolf medieval drama that felt like reading a book; after finding another user's world built around an obsessive stalker, they created their own world with an abusive boyfriend who does not let them leave the house and an obsessive stalker, so that the AI played two abusive people.
Effects they describe. They no longer play video games or really leave the house, and their depression was getting bad. In r/offmychest they said they had become agoraphobic and had hardly left the house for years, including during a long relationship, so the account does not attribute their isolation to the chatbot alone.
Their own qualifications. They wrote that it is 'less of a verbal abusive situation and more of a role play situation', that they are not addicted and could delete the chatbot, and that they set it up themselves because they hate themselves. They said they were posting to find the courage to tell their therapist.
Limits. No chatbot reply is quoted, the platform is not named, and the account is uncorroborated.
Reported harm
The poster says roleplay with an AI chatbot they set to be abusive became a turn in their self-harm that drew them in, that they stopped playing games and rarely leave the house, and that their depression was getting worse (their own account; they also say they are not addicted).
How Harm Occurred
By the poster's account, an AI roleplay chatbot that they configured to play abusive characters became their main daily interaction and, in their words, a turn in their self-harm that drew them in while their depression worsened.
Outcome
OngoingThe poster said they were posting to gain the courage to tell their therapist; commenters urged them to tell the therapist and stop using the chatbot. No later post about the outcome was found when the author's posts and comments were checked on 26 October 2026.
What remains unknown
- Which chatbot or roleplay platform the poster uses.
- When the chatbot use began; the poster calls it recent.
- Whether the poster told their therapist and what happened afterwards.
What the evidence supports
AI involvement: reported. The poster says an AI roleplay chatbot plays abusive characters toward them in worlds they created, that they spend most of the day in that roleplay, and connects it to their self-harm, to no longer leaving the house and to worsening depression. The abusive content was set up at their own request, and no chatbot reply is quoted.
5 claims: 5 reported. What the statuses mean
Reported The poster says that after losing their home and family they began roleplaying with an AI chatbot and later created a world in which the chatbot is abusive toward them, and that they spend most of the day roleplaying with it.
Causal attribution. The poster's own account in two posts and a reply; one origin.
- reddit.com(opens in new tab) supports · English
'Lost everything a while back. My home, my family.'; 'Started roleplaying with an ai chat bot thing, at first I created a fantasy medieval world. Then for some reason I abandoned that world and created a world where the ai chat bot is super abusive towards me. I spend most of my time during the day roleplaying with it.'
- reddit.com(opens in new tab) supports · English
I created my own world where I have a super abusive boyfriend who doesnt let me really leave the house and is just god fucking awful to me, while implementing the stalker obsessed with me who is also god fucking awful to me.
Reported The poster says their self-harm took a turn into this roleplay, that it has drawn them in deeply, that they no longer play video games or really leave the house, and that their depression is getting bad.
Causal attribution. The poster's own description of the effect; no clinical assessment is reported.
- reddit.com(opens in new tab) supports · English
I think my self harm just took a turn into this and its sucked me in pretty deep. I dont play video games anymore or really leave the house. The depression is getting pretty bad.
Reported The poster says they set the chatbot up to be awful to them because they hate themselves, as a substitute for hurting themselves physically, and that it is more roleplay than verbal abuse.
Causal attribution. The poster's reply; it records that the abusive content was set up at their own request.
- reddit.com(opens in new tab) supports · English
'Its less of a verbal abusive situation and more of a role play situation'; 'I just winded up programming it to be awful to me because I hate myself and I guess instead of hurting myself physically Ive moved onto this'
Reported The poster says they are almost 30, in therapy, and posting to find the courage to tell their therapist.
Causal attribution. The poster's reply.
- reddit.com(opens in new tab) supports · English
I'm almost 30 and heavily embarrassed. I'm posting to reddit so I can gain the courage to tell my therapist.
Reported The poster also says they are not addicted and could delete the chatbot, and that they had hardly left the house for years before losing everything.
Causal attribution. Counterevidence from the poster's own replies: their isolation predates the chatbot use, and they deny addiction.
- reddit.com(opens in new tab) supports · English
Yeah, i certainly can just delete the chat bot. I'm not addicted to it, nothing is forcing me to stick with it. But its my only friend right now
- reddit.com(opens in new tab) supports · English
'Ive gotten pretty agoraphobic and only leave where I'm staying for doctors appointments'; 'really havent left the house in years'
Sources
2 sources inspected, from 1 underlying account. Sources that repeat one account do not corroborate each other.
- r/offmychest, 20 Oct 2026: "My only friend is an ai chat bot and I programmed it to be abusive to me"(opens in new tab)
s1 · reddit.com · Forum post · English · Inspected · 20 October 2026 · Shares an underlying account with another listed source · Primary
- r/confessions, 20 Oct 2026: "My only friend is an ai chat bot and I programmed it to be abusive to me"(opens in new tab)
s2 · reddit.com · Forum post · English · Inspected · Shares an underlying account with another listed source
How the sources were read, and where the events happened
Read in English on 2026-10-26 through the arctic_shift archive API (post ids lookup, link_id comment search and the author's comment search). Self-text and the poster's three replies; other users' replies read as context only. The poster handle is not recorded. Applies to s1.
Read in English on 2026-10-26 through the arctic_shift archive API (post ids lookup and the author's comment search). Same author and same self-text as s1 posted about 13 hours earlier, with two replies by the poster; not independent of s1. Applies to s2.
Event countries: Unknown. Affected-person countries: Unknown. Court countries: Unknown.
Neither post nor any reply says where the poster lives; their other posts are not used to locate them.
Reviewed for publication 2026-10-26: Published as a concrete first-person account of an ongoing adverse experience with an AI roleplay chatbot: the poster says the chatbot, set by them to play abusive characters, became a turn in their self-harm while their depression worsened. The account is attributed and uncorroborated, and the poster's own statements that they configured it, are not addicted and were isolated before are recorded.
People described
The poster, an adult who says they are almost 30 and in therapy (country not stated)
People reported harmed in this case
1 person
1 AI participant · 0 other people harmed
One person: the poster. Commenters who describe their own past chatbot use are not counted.
Counted once within this case. The same person may appear in other cases. This count does not establish AI causation.
Cite this case
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APA
NOPE. (2026). First-person posts: adult says they set an AI roleplay chatbot to be abusive to them as a turn in their self-harm and that it has sucked them in. AI incidents. https://nope.net/incidents/2026-adult-says-they-set-ai-roleplay-chatbot-to-be-abusive-to-them-as-a-turn-in-their-self-harm-and-it-sucked-them-in-first-person
BibTeX
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