{"meta":{"exportedAt":"2026-10-17T07:13:19.733Z","formatVersion":2,"selection":{"q":"engagement-ended","system":"","harm":"","context":"","country":"","role":"","relation":"","evidence":"","year":"","response":"","severity":"","verification":"","view":"incidents","sort":"added"},"totalIncidents":1,"coverage":{"cases":1,"countries":0,"languages":1,"unknownLocation":1,"locationPending":0,"unknownLanguage":0,"unknownDate":0,"lawsuits":0,"regulatory":0,"minors":0,"coreRelations":0,"contextualRelations":1,"mixedRelations":0,"unknownRelations":0,"relationPending":0,"relationUnknown":0},"countingNote":"Distinct public cases in this selection. People counts apply within individual cases only; cross-case person overlap has not been resolved. No population incidence estimate.","affectedCountNote":"Interpret person counts with affectedCountStatus and the reported effects. Unquantified zeros are placeholders, not a measured zero.","source":"AI incidents","publisher":"NOPE","url":"https://nope.net/incidents","license":"CC BY 4.0"},"incidents":[{"id":"2026-partner-used-online-ai-jury-verdict-to-end-chores-dispute-engagement-called-off-first-person","caseFacts":{"claims":[{"id":"c1","status":"reported","evidence":[{"locator":"He told me he used an online AI jury to find out which one of us was wrong. 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The poster handle is not recorded.","independence_group":"reddit-offmychest-ai-jury-poster"},{"id":"s2","url":"https://www.reddit.com/r/offmychest/comments/1x20ow9/","kind":"forum_post","access":"read","language":"en","translation_note":"Read in English on 2026-10-17: full self-text of the 9 October 2026 update and the poster's one reply in its thread, retrieved through the arctic_shift archive API by author. The poster handle is not recorded.","independence_group":"reddit-offmychest-ai-jury-poster"}],"version":1,"ai_roles":["others_use"],"contexts":["relationships"],"unknowns":["Which AI tool the fiancé used, what he put into it and what it actually said; the poster knows the verdict only through the fiancé.","Where the couple lived.","How much money was spent on the wedding and how much was recovered.","Whether the fiancé disputes the poster's account; his view is not recorded."],"geography":{"basis":"Neither post says where the couple lived. Vocabulary in the posts and the subreddit are not evidence of location.","court_countries":[],"event_countries":[],"affected_person_countries":[]},"publication":{"basis":"Published under the public-forum rule as a concrete first-person account, in two posts by one author, of a partner using an online AI tool's verdict about the poster to refuse discussion of a dispute, followed by the end of the engagement and a cancelled wedding. Described with attribution and without corroboration; the earlier recurring dispute and the poster's own decision to end the engagement are recorded.","reviewed_on":"2026-10-17"},"ai_involvement":{"basis":"The poster says their fiancé told them he submitted their argument to an online AI jury, which judged that he was right and, in his words as the poster relays them, that the poster was being unreasonable. The poster connects that verdict to his refusal to discuss the dispute any further and gives his repeated citing of it as the reason they ended the engagement. The posts do not say that the poster saw the output, and the tool and what was put into it are not described.","status":"reported"},"person_relations":["made_claim_about"]},"name":"First-person posts: person says their fiancé cited an online AI jury's verdict to refuse to discuss a recurring dispute, and they ended the engagement","summary":"In two public posts to r/offmychest, on 6 June and 9 October 2026, a person writes that after a recurring argument about chores their fiancé told them he had used an online AI jury to decide which of them was right, that the 'jury' said he was right, and that he then refused to discuss the argument, saying the AI had told him he was right and the poster was being unreasonable. The poster says they left to stay with a relative on the morning of the first post. In the October update they write that the relationship is over, that they cancelled a wedding planned for late November and tried to recover what money they could, and that they ended things because their ex-fiancé would not discuss the dispute and 'kept on harping about the AI saying he was right'. The posts do not say that the poster saw the AI output; what it said is known only through the fiancé's account as relayed by the poster. The tool is not named. The poster also describes a longer-running disagreement over housework that predates the AI use. The account is uncorroborated.","incidentDate":"2026-06-01","incidentKind":"bounded_series","incidentDatePrecision":"month","exposurePattern":"unknown","reportedDate":"2026-06-06","aiSystem":"An online 'AI jury' tool that, according to the poster's fiancé, judged which partner was right in an argument (not named; its output is known only through the fiancé's report)","aiProduct":"Unidentified AI jury tool","severity":"low","verificationStatus":"unverified","harmCategories":[],"harmOutcomes":["relationship_disruption","psychological_distress"],"harmOutcomeSummary":"The poster says their fiancé's reliance on an AI jury's verdict to refuse discussion left them angry and at their wits' end, that they left to stay with a relative, and that they later ended the engagement, cancelled the wedding and tried to recover money spent on it (first-person account, uncorroborated; amount not stated).","frameworkFacets":[],"causationStatus":"alleged","participantUsersAffectedMin":0,"otherPeopleHarmedMin":1,"affectedCountStatus":"exact","affectedCountEvidence":"One person: the poster, who did not use the tool and was harmed through their fiancé's use of it. The fiancé's own experience is not counted because no harm to him is reported beyond the poster's remark that he seemed shocked.","victimAgeRange":"unknown","platformType":"chatbot","outcomeStatus":"resolved","primarySourceUrl":"https://www.reddit.com/r/offmychest/comments/1x20ow9/","primarySourceLabel":"r/offmychest, 9 Oct 2026: \"My fiancé used an AI jury to determine which one of us was right after an argument (UPDATE)\"","firstPublishedAt":"2026-10-17T03:07:51.045828+00:00","updatedAt":"2026-10-17T03:07:51.045828+00:00","scopeVersion":"facts-v3","tags":["first-person","reddit","relationship","engagement-ended","ai-verdict"]}]}